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Clearly I enjoy making lists. At the suggestion of a very dear friend, I made a list of "must haves" for a future partner. Below is a list of nonnegotiable traits:

Honest

Faithful (fidelity)

Kind

Affectionate

Good in bed (just being honest)

Emotionally available 

Spiritually growing

Intelligent

Self discipline

Self motivated

Respectful

Supportive

Considerate (come on-open the damn doors for her)

Loving

Has their shit together

Sober

Financially stable

Good with my teenage son

Hardworking 

Good communication skills

Reliable

Consistent

Great humor

Older 

Here is my list for deal breakers (AKA no way in hell I'll tolerate):

Emotionally unavailable

Spiritually sick

Having young children (sorry but this causes great problems in my last marriage)

Infidelity

Financially unstable

Unsupportive

Abusive in any way

Disrespectful 

Lying

Lazy

Dishonest

Selfish and self centered

New in sobriety

Unintelligent

Not accepting or good with my son

Inconsiderate 

Lack of stability 

Rude

Poor communication skills