20/20

"Sometimes good things fall apart so that better things can fall together". -Marilyn Monroe

Hindsight is 20/20. I have found this to be profoundly true with regards to relationships. Sometimes we look back and see true loveliness; other times we see the nightmarish aspects we were blinded to. More often than not we recognize the relationship needed to end. But oh, other times it takes losing all to realize we actually belong together. Let's be clear-this is a rare phenomenon. We are conditioned to only present our best selves. It is only with a break up are we able to clearly see all attributes-both negative and positive. I find that how a relationship ends is the best indicator if two people should reconcile. If we are kind, loving, and gracious then it perhaps points to a deeper kind of love which existed all along. We often operate on fear-we give up too easily. It takes tremendous courage to weather the good times and the hard times. It is not easy-it isn't supposed to be. In a world which glorifies instant gratification we can too easily walk away when hard work is required. Today I feel whole. I feel complete. I no longer carry a void which demands unrealistic fulfillment by others. Today I am capable of being in a healthy relationship should the gifted opportunity present itself. I am grateful for the darkened storms. Without them I could not appreciate the sunlight of today.