One of my sister's recently emailed our family her post mortem wishes (although I do not know what prompted this, I can assure you it isn't because she's been stricken with a terminal illness, etc.). My sister's email inspired me to at least set down some basics on paper in the event I pass before my will is fully established. I share these "non-negotiables" not out of morbid fanaticism, but rather to inspire others to consider doing the same....
*Donate any salvageable organ, etc. if it can save the life of another human being.
*Do not bury me in a coffin and place me underground. If anyone tries to put me in a box I will come back and haunt them- I wouldn't allow myself to be boxed up in life and I certainly wont stand for it after. Simply put--cremate me.
*Following cremation, scatter my ashes (the location is not necessarily important to me-I relinquish this decision for my family to make).
*I like the idea of playing a slide show (detailing life events, photos, etc.). I do not object to a memorial service , however, please keep it lighthearted and happy--recall funny and touching stories/memories--do not grieve for me as I firmly believe I will meet all of you once again.
*I have several unpublished pieces-two children's books and one adult novel ("The Lightening Bug", "Letters from Lola", and "Wasted")-do with them as you see fit. In addition, there is this blog-in the event of my passing, please keep it alive.
*I have made two life books for Caleb- one of which contains letters I have written to him-please ensure they're given to him.
*Caleb is the sole receiver of any life insurance policies, financial assets, etc. Although custody would be awarded to his father, my wish is for Caleb to spend LIBERAL amounts of time with his Nana, my mother, Matt, and my extended family...Caleb belongs and is a part of us all.
*It is my greatest wish that Caleb be exposed to my same spiritual beliefs, books, etc.--ultimately we all choose our own way but the more options/views we are exposed to, the better informed decisions we can later make.
*Divide all of my material belongings fairly (because they are just that-material). Take great care with my collection of books- they are as much a part of me as all of you. Divide them up as you see fit---the books will guide you to whom should be their new owner (Disclaimer- Caleb may have any books he wishes).
*In the event I am in vegetative state, etc. I exercise my right to DNR (Do Not Resuscitate). Do not under any circumstances leave me plugged into a machine ...let me go peacefully and do not keep me mechanically alive-it's simply no quality of life whatsoever.
*And always remember-my life was made richer by all who loved me-I thank you all
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